What are common signs of Abusive Relationships? Edit

According to Wikipedia:

Abusive power and control (also controlling behaviorcoercive control and sharp power) is the way that an abusive person gains and maintains power and control over another person, as a victim, in order to subject that person to psychological, physical, sexual, or financial abuse. The motivations of the abusive person are varied, such as personal gain, personal gratification, psychological projection, devaluation, envy or just for the sake of it as the abuser may simply enjoy exercising power and control.


Physical Abuse (pictured: Adam Taurus and Blake Belladonna of RWBY)

Controlling abusers use tactics to exert power and control over their victims. The tactics themselves are psychologically and sometimes physically abusive. Control may be helped through economic abuse thus limiting the victim's actions as they may then lack the necessary resources to resist the abuse. The goal of the abuser is to control and intimidate the victim or to influence them to feel that they do not have an equal voice in the relationship.

Manipulators and abusers control their victims with a range of tactics, including positive reinforcement (such as praise, flattery, ingratiation, love bombing, smiling, gifts, attention), negative reinforcement, intermittent or partial reinforcement, psychological punishment (such as nagging, silent treatment, swearing, threats, intimidation, emotional blackmail, guilt trips, inattention) and traumatic tactics (such as verbal abuse or explosive anger).

The vulnerabilities of the victim are exploited with those who are particularly vulnerable being most often selected as targets.Traumatic bonding can occur between the abuser and victim as the result of ongoing cycles of abuse in which the intermittent reinforcement of reward and punishment creates powerful emotional bonds that are resistant to change and a climate of fear.An attempt may be made to normalise, legitimise, rationalise, deny, or minimise the abusive behaviour, or blame the victim for it.

Isolation, gaslighting, mind games, lying, disinformation, propaganda, destabilisationand divide and rule are other strategies that are often used. The victim may be plied with alcohol or drugs to help disorientate them.

Certain personality types feel particularly compelled to control other people.

Behaviour Towards Bella Edit

He stalks her, stares at her on her sleep and forbids her to see her BFF. WTF?

How to deal with abuse Edit

  • Call the police
  • Divorce/break up with your partner
  • Kill your partner
  • Deport your partner to North Korea

Works that handle abuse CORRECTLY Edit

Anime Edit

  • Seraph of the End: Yu had abusive parents. He was later adopted by Guren who and learned you don't need to be related by blood to be a family. Shinoa was also abused and Guren was horrified, and he told that bastard Kureto (Shinoa's big brother) that child abuse was wrong
  • Erased tells the tale of Kayo Hinazuki and her abusive mom
  • My Hero Academia: Shoto Todoroki's bastard father, Endeavor, trained him in a cruel way only as a tool to surpass All Might. His mother did not approve of his method of training and periodically got worse to the point that his mother burned his left side of his face and his mother being sent to the mental hospital.
  • Assassination Classroom: Nagisa's mother wanted to have a daughter, but had a son instead, so she forced him to wear feminine attire and would constantly berate him if he speaks up against her plans.
  • Code Geass: Lelouch's father, Emperor Charles zi Brittania, is a social darwinist who somehow doesn't care about the welfare of his children and berated Lelouch and his mother for being weak. Kallen Stadtfeldt's stepmother also counts since she is abusive towards her and her mother
  • Kimetsu no Yaiba: Kanao's parents were so abusive that some of her siblings died during the abuse and that they sold her off to slavery. The Shinazugawa brothers, Genya and Sanemi also suffer from this from their father, constantly lashing out to their mother and then his children (Sanemi and Genya included).

Literature Edit

  • Carrie by Stephen King shows how badly kids suffer from Child Abuse

Web Originals Edit

  • RWBY
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Western Animations Edit

  • Avatar The Last Airbender: Ozai gets called out for being a dick to Zuko. Toph also had crap parents.
  • Ed Edd n Eddy: It's revealed Ed has an abusive elder brother who physically beats the poor kid up and the moral of the movie is that domestic abuse is wrong
  • BoJack Horseman: Do I really have to explain? This show is amazing at deconstructing abuse
  • Courage the Cowardly Dog: In the episode The Mask, Kitty leaves her abusive boyfriend, Mad Dog, to be with Bunny

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